An Apology on Mothers Day 2010

Heather says:

This is the third Mothers Day since the launch of this site in 2007 and something fairly important was recently brought to my attention. I was talking with my mother about the book and although I knew she was proud, she said something that took me aback.

“If you don’t mind, could you use a different tagline?”

For three years my mother had been taking, “What you wish your mama taught you” personally.


Guess who felt like a world class jerk.

I apologized.

And now, I’m apologizing to all the mothers out there who may have felt the same.

What you wish your mama taught you isn’t about any mother in particular, it’s just a nostalgic reference to the knowledge and wisdom we -generationaly speaking- didn’t pay attention to growing up. Β It doesn’t matter whether you stayed home or worked full time, we know you did the best you could and for that we thank you.

Our kids, the ones we have or plan to, won’t be listening either*.

Thank your mom and tell her Happy Mothers Day.

*Hurray for job security?


  1. LoriW on May 10, 2010 at 7:25 pm

    What about "What you wish you LISTENED to as your mama taught you"

    How may teenagers — yes even me — rolled their eyes when their mothers tried to teach them anything!

  2. Judith on May 10, 2010 at 2:37 am

    Heather, all mothers need reassurance from their daughters that they were good moms and good teachers ……. so just keep reassuring your Mom that, when you were listening, you learned a lot from her!
    Note to all: don't neglect to do this while you have your Mom; mine's gone now and there is more that I wish I would have told her.
    The other day my nearly-21-year-old was AMAZED that, when we showed him (again!) how to use a peeler on potatoes and (again!) how to cut them up and put them in water, that mashed potatoes were easy to make. What a surprise! LOL Maybe now he's listening about cooking and other life skills ('cuz he sure wasn't before when I tried to teach him!) Oh, well, live and learn.

  3. ThatBobbieGirl on May 10, 2010 at 2:12 am

    Tell your mama that someone tried to get you to change it to "What I Wish My Mama Taught Me" — but you wouldn't, coz your mama taught you well.

    Happy Mothers Day to you and all the other moms who work hard to teach their children well.
    (And to the ones who haven't, but want to do better!)

  4. Girly on May 9, 2010 at 8:25 pm

    I'm glad you took it gracefully – I hated it when my parents read my blog and took things personally that really had nothing to do with them. And everytime my friend writes a song about a heartbreak, his girlfriend thinks it's about her.

    Maybe that's just a curse for you creative types. πŸ™‚

    I want to simply add "ditto" to the other commenters here as well. I never took that tagline as a knock on your mom or any other.

  5. Keter on May 9, 2010 at 9:32 pm

    I think the tagline is fine. That's not to say that some mothers out there aren't clueless about homemaking or confused by the "impersonal you" in a sentence. I'm saying don't sweat it, most of us took it the way you intended.

    The most eye-rolling and whining I ever got from my son was when I was trying to teach him simple things like how to do laundry or cook an egg. He mostly learned anyway. Did he ever thank me? Nah. That's not how it works! ;o)

    Happy Mother's Day, dear Heather and fellow readers to whom the title of mother is applicable.

    • caroline on May 10, 2010 at 4:07 pm

      my brother bought a car with the money he earned doing laundry his freshman year in college, he was one of of 3 people on his floor (girls included) that knew how.

  6. lifeofahappymom on May 9, 2010 at 6:43 pm

    You could make future posts say something like, "What you would have learned from your mom if you'd been paying attention" or something like that. πŸ˜‰ Happy mother's day!

  7. Stacy on May 9, 2010 at 6:41 pm

    I am kind of obtuse sometimes–I don't get why your mom would be offended by that tagline. Doesn't it suggest that she taught you well, and now you're sharing that with others whose mothers may not have had the time to teach them those particular skills? If she's hurt, I would feel bad about that. But I don't see it as any kind of insult to her at all, but rather a compliment. Speaking only for myself, I LOVE the tagline because I absolutely wish I'd learned those things from my "mama" and I mean no disrespect to her for it. She was a busy single mom and really didn't have a mom who taught her those skills either. So, we both enjoy learning better skills. Also, that tagline reminds me of how I want to change things for my next generation–my son and also my husband. I want our family to learn and know about those long-passed-down homey skills and traditions that make home a great place to be–the best place to be. I never had that environment, and always wanted it. Since I can't go back in time, at least I can go forward in a fuller more nurturing way to create that home for my family. Thanks for your part in making that possible, and thank your mom for raising you in such a way that you are reaching out to help others!

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