And when Mama’s happy, everyone’s happy

WinkIvy says:

I remember when I was in college, I didn’t feel like I had time or energy to deal with cleaning, so my house was constantly messy. My mom was constantly on me about making sure my house was clean. I’d get depressed for long stretches of time, and she told me if I’d only clean my house, I’d feel better.

It made me incredibly mad. To me, my depression was caused by real problems not just a dirty house. I figured cleaning my house wouldn’t fix anything, so I left it dirty.

Now that I’m older and (ha!) wiser, I’ve been struggling with depression again, and my housework has suffered a bit. This past week I’ve been cleaning and decluttering furiously, and my house is back to being the paragon of cleanliness (ha! again!) I like it to be.  I realized something. My mom was right.

When my house is cleaner, I feel better, cheerier. And while having a clean house won’t singlehandedly pull me out of a depression, it’s definitely a step in the right direction.


  1. Liz on March 17, 2012 at 11:18 am

    THANK YOU!  i am in college and I get this way SO often!  I try to tell my boyfriend that it is true that your physical surroundings, if not in harmony, can negatively affect your well-being!  He doesn’t believe me though.  Now I am holding out until the end of this school term to work on my apartment’s well-being.  I just have so much to do after months upon months of neglect that I cannot feasibly do it alone, or within a reasonable time frame that won’t interfere with studying for finals.

  2. MsFraser on December 29, 2011 at 7:16 am

    You can not SNAP out of depression.. but when you feel a bit better taking advantage of cleaning the house can lift your spirits…endorphines sp 😛 from being physical play a big part too..That said onwards and upwards my storage room calls!

  3. Margo on November 14, 2007 at 11:30 pm

    I totally agree! It’s like a cycle – when I clean my house I feel better, and when I feel better I feel like cleaning my house!

  4. Carol on November 12, 2007 at 10:46 pm

    I hope you keep stepping in the right direction. I keep telling my dh that a messy house is our biggest source of evil right now, and he just thinks that is my stupid excuse, of why I don’t want sex. LOL

  5. Margolis on November 12, 2007 at 9:41 pm

    I can really relate too.
    For me, it was getting started that was always the hardest. And it takes such strength of will to decide to do something when all I would rather do is sit on the sofa and stare. But taking charge of your house is soooo empowering! You’ll be in my thoughts, Ivy, as you beat back the depression and find your path.

  6. Amy on November 12, 2007 at 7:12 pm

    I suffer from depression myself and I really can relate to this. I have started taking some supplements that are really helping me because we are without health insurance right now and I can’t afford my normal meds. Feel free to email me and I can send you the info (no worries- I don’t sell or know anyone who sells anything so no spammy spam)

  7. Bramble on November 12, 2007 at 5:13 pm

    ::hugs:: It’s such a catch-22. Too depressed to clean, but cleaning makes things nicer.
    Hope you feel better soon! (And unplug your phone if mom’s a buggin ya!)

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