Balancing your dreams with the reality of life

Ivy says:

Here’s a behind-the-scenes look at Heather and I- we balance each other out nearly perfectly. When I’m struggling or overly busy or sick or whatever, Heather’s doing well and picks up my slack. When Heather’s struggling, I’m doing fine. Sometimes we’re both doing fine at the same time, even. It’s pretty rare that Heather and I are both struggling on the same day. Well, except for today- Heather has a massive migraine and I have a worse-than-usual toothache. (Don’t worry, guys, I’m seeing a dentist on Monday!!!)

So, since we’re both feeling yucky, I though we’d spark a discussion. We all have dreams, but sometimes the reality of life gets in the way. Sometimes, you have to shrug off the reality of life and just go for your dreams, like a friend of mine who up and moved to New York City on the spur of the moment and it’s worked out well for her. Sometimes you have to sit back and wait until the timing is right, like my dream of traveling all over the world and writing about it. Naturally, this takes money I don’t have and my kids are really too young to just up and start traveling- with or without them.

You have to work toward your dreams in one way or another, though, and balancing that with your regular everyday life can be tough. So, Home Eccers, what are your dreams and how are you working toward them? Or are you having trouble balancing your wants and desires with your needs?


  1. Pension annuity on December 22, 2009 at 7:08 am

    I love to read encouraging and inspiring stories of how other people did it. How wonderful to celebrate with them while we are still working towards this goal.

  2. ScrappyQuilter on June 13, 2008 at 12:31 pm

    Okay, don’t laugh….

    My husbands dream has always been to be an over-the-road truck driver. We got married and had a family very young (I had 4 kids before I turned 23, one from a previous marriage). We never had a chance to have the young-married lifestyle–you know, “just the two of us”–and we never felt like he could leave me to cope with all those kids for weeks at a time, so he went into another field.

    We’ve decided to make the leap when our youngest graduates high school, 4 years from now. We are going on the road together (me only as a passenger, at least at first!). Trucking hasn’t always been my dream like it’s his, but the more we talk and plan and dream about it together, the more excited I get. We never had a honeymoon, so we call this our “Retirement-fund building extended first-not-second honeymoon”

  3. Trixie on June 13, 2008 at 10:35 am


    Ah, the dreams… good topic. I can’t wait to read what your other commentors share!

    My husband and I own 3 businesses. My husband works full time from home and I work outside the home full time at a very high stress corporate management job. Sounds fancy but trust me it’s not.

    My dream is to build our businesses to the point that I can resign from the corporate jungle and work from home as my husband does. I love to read encouraging and inspiring stories of how other people did it. How wonderful to celebrate with them while we are still working towards this goal.

    Take Care,


  4. Sara on June 12, 2008 at 11:15 pm

    I think it’s absolutely okay to put your dreams on hold while you take care of the real world. After all, what kind of a half-assed dream is it anyway if a rough day blows it out of the water?

  5. Pam on June 11, 2008 at 9:44 pm

    My dream was achieved….getting my book published “Creating Happy Memories”……available at We gave the royalties to our local Center for the Homeless’s children programs for the first two years……sales have slowed but I keep plugging away… is a great gift for new parents, newlyweds, grandparents, teachers. It is hard not to get discouraged sometimes. God Bless, Pam

  6. Mittie on June 11, 2008 at 5:09 pm

    Dreams have a way of changing and evolving… right now it’s homeownership and FINALLY finishing a degree, although NOT in what I originally intended. The 18 year old me would have laughed her head off at the stupid notion of the 38 year old me getting a degree in Religion/History.

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