Here’s something I struggle with that I bet our fabulous readers have ideas about! I get invited to go out a lot with my various local friends. The problem? I can’t really afford to go out as much as I’m invited out. I know I’m lucky to have that many friends that want to invite me places, but it’s tough- I have been declining a whole lot of invitations and I’m afraid they’ll stop asking me to go out places with them.
I used to decline invitations by simply explaining that I didn’t have the money to go out, but to please invite me some other time- eventually, I’ll find the extra in the budget. The problem with this is that often, my friends will offer to pay my way which opens up a whole ‘nother issue- I don’t want to be beholden to my friends and I know they often are about as broke as I am.
So I finally just stopped giving a reason as to why I couldn’t come, but I’m afraid they’ll think it’s them I don’t want to hang out with, when it’s really just that I don’t have the money to go out. I’ve tried to temper a lot of this expensive going out by inviting people to come over to my house instead, but that brings up another issue.
See, I live in a way-out-of-the-way part of town. So not a lot of people want to drive all the way out there- even though I’m driving all the way out there to see them. So not only am I paying out money to go out to eat, but I’m also paying a lot of gas money to get there. Sigh.
So, Home Eccers, what do you do when faced with this problem?